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Losing a parent is a journey no child should have to face, but at Pillars, no girl ever walks it alone. With warmth, strength, and unwavering care, we stand beside each girl, helping her turn pain into resilience and loss into light.At Pillars, grief is met with compassion, challenges are transformed into opportunities for growth, and every girl learns to see herself as strong, capable, and filled with potential.Through friendship, encouragement, and love, we empower girls to embrace who they are, discover their inner voice, and step forward with confidence. Together, we nurture a future overflowing with hope, courage, and possibility.
Because at Pillars, every heart has the power not only to heal, but to shine brighter than ever.
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Each month, Pillars comes alive with six vibrant get-togethers across our three locations- Brooklyn, Lakewood, and Monsey. Every branch offers dedicated programs for each division: Pillars Junior (PJs), Pillars Teens, and Pillars Prime.These evenings brim with delicious dinners, exciting activities, lively games, and heartfelt discussions that spark inspiration and connection. Alongside the fun, each program also weaves in our signature month-by-month series—equipping the Pillars Teens and Pillars Prime girls with tools of resilient grief and Emuna, blending positive psychology with connection to Hashem to help them navigate their journey with strength and hope.What truly makes these gatherings special, however, is not just the program. It’s the warmth, the laughter, and the friendships that blossom.Month after month, the girls leave with renewed energy, deeper confidence, and the powerful reminder that they are never alone; they are part of the Pillars family.
Our Shabbatonim are the crown jewel of Pillars—life-changing weekends that girls carry in their hearts forever. Hosted in beautiful hotels, every detail is carefully designed to nourish body, heart, and soul.
From the moment the girls arrive on Friday, they step into an atmosphere bursting with joy, warmth, and belonging. The program is overflowing with world-class entertainment, dynamic and empowering workshops, and divrei chizuk from renowned speakers. Five-star seudos and exquisitely prepared hostess packages make each girl feel cherished and pampered.
Shabbos itself becomes a transformative journey of song, laughter, tears, and inspiration—where walls come down, hearts open, and friendships are forged for life. By Sunday, the girls return home renewed, empowered, and uplifted—with memories that will fuel them long after the buses pull away.
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A few times each year, all of Pillars unite for electrifying, large-scale celebrations. Whether it’s a dazzling Chanukah event with top entertainment, a Purim adventure at Urban Air with celebrity entertainers, or a summer poolside BBQ with laughter and music, these gatherings are unmatched in energy and joy.
Every detail carries the unmistakable Pillars touch: world-class entertainment, exciting programming, top-tier gifts, and always a meaningful message to bring home. These events send our girls back glowing with happiness, connection, and strength.
The Big and Little Sister program is one of Pillars’ most heartwarming treasures. Older girls are paired with younger ones, becoming trusted “big sisters” who give time, love, and encouragement.
Whether through outings, games, homework help, or just meaningful conversation, every moment builds cherished memories.
More than fun companionship, these bonds empower the younger girls with role models who show them how to grow with grace and resilience—while the older girls discover the joy and strength of giving back.
We know that the days surrounding a parent’s yahrtzeit can be among the most difficult. With deep care and sensitivity, Pillars delivers beautiful, thoughtful packages to each family during this tender time.
Each package includes comforting pastries, personalized קי״ט tehillim cards, and a heartfelt poem—gifts of love and strength that remind every girl she is not alone. In those vulnerable moments, Pillars surrounds her with comfort, compassion, and connection.
At Pillars, every milestone is embraced with joy and honor. Birthdays are celebrated with meaningful gifts and personal recognition, reminding each girl how deeply she matters. Bas Mitzvah girls receive personalized presents that mark their growth with dignity and pride. And when a Pillars girl becomes a kallah, she is gifted a Bosch challah maker, an empowering symbol of her new beginning and the family that continues to embrace her.
Every milestone becomes more than a moment. It becomes a celebration of resilience, hope, and belonging.
Navigating shidduchim with one parent can feel overwhelming, but at Pillars, no girl has to do it alone. We’ve built a trusted network of shadchanim who know and care about our girls, and through our “Meet the Shadchan” events, they can connect in a relaxed, supportive, and pressure-free space. Each girl also has a dedicated Pillars coordinator to guide and advocate for her in whatever way she needs, whether that’s research, networking, advice, or just someone to turn to along the way.
We also provide talented hair and makeup artists who can help girls prepare for dates, access to dating coaches, shopping assistance for dating attire, and a list of homes where girls can feel comfortable to date from. We’re so grateful to be able to share these resources and walk alongside each girl, supporting her with dignity, encouragement, and confidence as she navigates this chapter of life.
Pillars is more than a program; it is a lifeline. Beyond our events and programming, we serve as a central resource for the many needs yesomos and their families may face. From housing placements and referrals, to personal guidance or simply a listening ear, Pillars is there. In addition, we provide hands-on case management and work closely with partner organizations to help secure funding for therapy and essential services.
With an expansive network of trusted contacts, we are privileged to support our girls and their families in countless ways. Whatever the need, Pillars is ready to step in with compassion, strength, and unwavering support.
Led by Shoshana Rube, the Resilient Journaling Workshop is a safe and empowering space where girls learn to transform pain into strength. Through guided prompts, journaling, and creative expression, they uncover resilience within themselves and discover the healing power of words.
Week after week, writing becomes both a release and a source of empowerment, helping the girls build confidence, process their experiences, and find their voice. It’s not just a workshop; it’s a journey of self-discovery, healing, and hope.
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Our Pillars Chill Zones are fun, cozy, and welcoming spaces created just for our Pillars Big and Little Sisters. Each Chill Zone is thoughtfully stocked with engaging activities, amazing crafts, and delicious snacks, making it easy to relax, have fun, and build meaningful relationships in a comfortable setting.
Whether they’re chatting, creating, playing, or just taking a breather, the Chill Zones offer a warm and nurturing space where connection and excitement come naturally. These relaxing environments give the girls a place to unwind, connect, and simply enjoy being together.
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All of our PJ's girls are encouraged to say Tehillim in honor of their parents’ neshama. To make this meaningful, enjoyable, and realistic, we provide special Tehillim checklists, recordings of each Kapitel, and regular updates through our hotline, so the girls can track their progress and see what their friends have accomplished too.
When a girl finishes Sefer Tehillim, she receives a beautiful personalized Tehillim with her name on it along with a stunning custom Tehillim cake to enjoy with her family. While the girls may receive a special reward for their efforts, the greatest reward of all is truly priceless
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Shoshana Rube
After losing her mother at the young age of 15 and navigating the journey of loss alone, Shoshana Rube made it her mission to do all that she could to ensure that no other girl would have to face that kind of pain in isolation. She went on to write the book Forever With Me, a heartfelt depiction of her personal journey through loss, healing, and growth. The overwhelming response to the book, made it clear just how needed this kind of support was. And so, in 2010 the Pillars family was born.
Shoshana Rube dedicates her life to walk alongside girls and families who have experienced loss. With deep empathy and a gentle presence, she supports, connects, and empowers in the most meaningful ways. For Shoshana, it’s a real privilege to be part of each family’s story, offering strength, comfort, and a sense of hope as they find their way forward.
From one story of loss came the Pillars family where no girl ever has to feel alone again.
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I have seen firsthand how Pillars highly effective programs and Shabbatonim transform the lives of girls.
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In their most challenging moments, Pillars offers its members a rare gift: the opportunity to find care and support in one another, to discover ones own inner strengths, and to find joy in connection. Simply put, Pillars offers the gift of resilience.
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Pillars combines genuine compassion with meaningful support. In the midst of profound loss, Pillars offers girls a place where they feel understood, connected, and empowered to discover their own resilience and strength.
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Pillars is my second home!
You’ve enabled me to make friends who have been a support for me and have shown me that I am not alone.
From the events, get-togethers, Shabatonim…I cannot thank you enough. The chizuk and support I have gained from it all has been tremendous.
From this Shabbos, I gained such chizuk not just for my loss, but for everything going on in my life as well.
Each get-together, recap video, and everything else gives me so much strength that has helped me through one of the hardest years in my life!
Pillars is a magical place. It is the most empowering environment I have ever been in!
Someone cares and understands. The balance of fun, inspiration, and healing is what makes Pillars what it is.
The chizuk and get-togethers have made it so much easier for me to get through the loss of my mother.
It’s amazing how you light up the face and heart of my daughter.
Everything is done with such class, care, and warmth.
I thank Hashem that He led me to you and all of the amazing people at Pillars. Not only are you my new role models, but you are also my family.
I want to thank you for the journaling workshop. I really have to say that they are so helpful! I've always loved to write but this is a whole new level!
The ideas you come up with to lighten the pain of my family and all of the Pillars families is unbelievable. Again, and again.
Thank you for being a “Pillar” in my life.
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Dear Girls,
You don’t have to go through this alone. At Pillars, you’ll find care, connection, inspiration, and fun, along with friends and role models who truly understand.
Dear Parents,
You want your daughter to feel supported, understood, and uplifted - and so do we. At Pillars, she’ll find warmth, friendship, and the tools to grow with strength and hope.
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